3 Things I've Learn About Disagreements

I'm sitting here listening to some pretty well known people talk about throwing rocks at each other and I am realizing a few things. For starters, stop throwing punches at people like Benny Leonard in the 20's and have a conversation! Now here are the 3 things I have learned:

1: People fight over ambiguity

1920's Ghetto Wizzard - Benny Leonard

Have you ever noticed that you get angry and tense often because of discussions that you have never had? Is it possible that many relationships suffer simply because we have never talked about what is bothering us? Let me answer that for you. Yes. It is not just possible. It is true. Stop assuming that people are out to get you, or that they are wrong, and make a legit effort to talk to them about the issue. You will more than likely be surprised by what you find.

2: Don't be defined by what you are against.
When you are defined by what you are against, you are left living a very negative life.  Think of people that have helped change the world. Jesus was not known for being AGAINST sin, he was known for being FOR redemption. MLK was not known for being against segregation as much as he was known for being FOR togetherness and equality. You can keep going with this, but the point is that you need to focus on what you are FOR and put what you are against on the back burner.

3: Be civil
Whether you agree or disagree with another person, for the love of the flavor of bacon, BE CIVIL! If Christ taught us anything, it was that we are to love other people. Next to loving God, it was the second greatest commandment that he gave. So whether you agree or disagree, just love them. Lets stop throwing rocks and start giving hugs. Lets quit punching our friends and teammates and start making a change.


Bottom line is this: Don't be a pantywaisted pansy and sidestep your disagreements. Address the issue in love, grace, civility, and with the main goal to be greater understanding and not to make a point. Take the high road and love your enemies and do good to those that hurt you.